Sunday, April 25, 2010

To Ashlee

Hi Ashlee,

I apologize for the delay in writing this to you.  I only saw your comment today on my blog regarding our Fertility Class.  I wanted to comment on your personal blog, but wasn't sure how public your situation was, so I thought I'd just write you a note on my blog to say "Thanks!"  It's nice to know I'm not the only one going a bit stir-crazy.  And I think being the "Cool Aunt" has a nice ring to it! :) 

After being stranded in the UK for an extra 5 days I told myself "no more exotic places! Just easy places from now on!" but I'm sure if I don't end up having children, I'll change my mind once again :).  I hope all is well with you.  Thanks again!

Abigail

Updates

So, yet another friend is pregnant.  I just keep wondering when it will be my turn.  I feel like I just can't focus on anything else.  It's getting to be a bit depressing.

I just got back from vacationing and I was one of the travellers who ended up being stranded overseas and travelled quite a distance to get home.  I'm home in one piece and more determined than ever to make a baby happen.  Whether its through adoption or IVF.

I started looking into adoption...nothing concrete...just a quick perusal to see what that world is like and stumbled upon a great blog:

http://www.filly.ca/life/relationships/friends_and_family/An_Adoption_Story.asp

One common thing is that it can take at least 15 months from starting the process of adoption to actually receiving your child.  I'll keep you posted as to the progress of this decision.

In the meantime, I'm actually taking Robitussin 3x a day (2 teaspoons) because I've been hearing so much about this method.  I missed the ability to go to the fertility clinic to start the IVF process this month because I was stuck overseas so I thought...why not just try Robitussin.  This probably won't work either since I was supposed to start it 5 days before ovulation and I started it at 2 days.  But, it doesn't hurt.

Sunday, April 11, 2010

I know its been a while...

For my two followers...I thank you for following me :). 

I realize I haven't written in a while and its because the last IUI session had been yet again unsuccessful.  I was REALLY hopeful this time because everything looked so good...the timing of the IUI...my hubby's sperm...the number of eggs I had produced.  But when that darn red spot showed up...I was devastated.  This time, it hit me hard...I couldn't stop crying for two days.  I was so glad that it was the weekend so I could wallow and be left alone.

We're on vacation now, which is good because it let me just not think of reality for a second.  Just eat whatever I want, drink whatever I want, be as tough on my body (biking, walking for hours, sleep less) as I want....  So it's been good.  It's made me start to realize that adoption may not be a bad option.  I just didn't want to be a failure and I felt like adoption was a failure to my ability to conceive.  Especially when no one really knows what is going on with my body.  Endometriosis does have a lot to do with it, but it was taken care off, so shouldn't be a problem...so I've been told.

Being open to adopting, is the first big step.  So we're going to try one IVF session and if that is unsuccessful, I am going to at least look in to adopting.  All the meanwhile, we may try IVF two or three more times.  If at the end of the year there is still nothing, then we will probably start filing adoption papers.  Although this Robitussin method might be an option (??):  http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/health/robitussin-pregnancy-in-a-5-bottle-of-hope/article1529730/

But I wanted to share an snippet of an e-mail sent to me by my friend which just made me cry.  She told me that she was expecting only after having tried for a couple of months and I had congratulated her and here is her response:
"I just want to tell you that I think you are the most thoughtful, amazing person.  I know you are happy for me and John, but I also know that it's another reminder of the challenges you and Adam are facing.  And I want you to know how much I truly appreciate your kind words when I know that inside, you are struggling with things.  And I can't help to think about how unfair it is.  Even though I'm obviously so incredibly happy, I also wonder what I did to deserve this.  Why am I so lucky?  So anyway, thank you for being such a great friend!"